Hello Everyone!
I realize that there are many of you that have questions or just wonder about certain stuff in Oman. Since I am an Omani girl, I go about my day without thinking about why certain things in Oman are the way they are…
So, if you have a question or are wondering about anything, just shoot me an email (for private questions) or post here. I will be happy to answer.
My email: omani (DOT) dreamer (AT) gmail (DOT)com
Please note: Post questions here if I don’t have an entry on your subject area.
Thank you….. Reality
I’am opening your blog almost daily, and no new ! when u r gonna update or blog any thing? “shoot one boot” at least weakly and let people fight ” comment”.
keep it up, i like what u write although i don’t totaly agree
sorry about that…. there were reasons I can’t discuss :s
But I’m back now to continue writing…..
Many of what I write is only personal opinion from personal experience…
Hi,
Wonder how many spam messages you get in a day
Suggest you replace (in your email id) the “@” with “at” and “.” by “dot” so that automatic searches wont find your email id.
Waiting for more posts about the “real” country
Jacob.
Will do that.. thanx
Thanks for keeping a blog. I’m bookmarking your page – and will keep reading! I’m a western expat, have lived here for 4 years, and am still frequently confused and/or irritated by the behavior of some of the men – so I look forward with great anticipation as you explain (and hopefully help me learn about and accept) your ‘daily life’.
Many blessings!
Thank you, I hope you enjoy reading it!
hi
i live in oman since i was 2 years old n now im 22.
i want to marry an omani coz v like eachothr just want to knw how can v do it?? plz help me!
thnx
regards.
madiha
Here is the list of requirements you need to follow to be able to get permission to marry an Omani. Hope this helps, and if you have additional questions you can email me or ask me here.
Dear Sir Or Madam, I am a national Of India got married to an Omani national in India under the special marriage act, by which we also have an daughter of 2 1/2yrs. Due to her over stay in India the inadian govt had deported her to Oman. Now her family members are objecting her in sending to India. i am also not in a position to come Oman because her family had lodged a false kidnapped complaint against me in Oman. So here by kindly seeking a help and suggestion from your end to solve our issue where i and my family can live together.
As salamu alaykum.
I am an American living in oman, and I have a few questions that I hope you will be willing to answer.
1. I am a teacher and I notice that some male students always wear the traditional headwrap, while others only wear the cap. It seems that city dwellers prefer the cap, and the opposite for people from villages. What determines which headpiece a person wears?
2. What is the history of the Baluchi people in Oman? Why and when did they come here?
3. You mentioned the Beesaris as having no traceable lineage. What exactly do you mean by this? How can they know nothing about their family history?
I know it’s a lot, but I couldn’t find the answers in your blog, and most people aren’t as willing to talk about these things as you are.
As salamu alaykum,
Thanks,
Daniel
ugh, I wrote you a long reply but I lost it.. I will try again.
1- The headwarp vs the cap: The headwrap is the formal headpiece worn by men and the headcap is the casual headpiece. Usually, you would see people from the Northern and the Southern parts of Oman wear the headwrap. Mostly those that live closer to UAE or have Bedouin origins. People from Muscat and the regions that are close to Muscat usually wear the cap. It is just part of the culture, and if I’m not mistaken, the cap became a popular headpiece when Oman used to occupy Zanzibar.
2- Based on what I know (did a little research), in the 19th century, the coastal part of Baluchistan (in Pakistan) used to be an Omani territory. Another account is that the Imams of Oman have requested help from the Baluchi’s to fight against the Portuguese in Zanzibar and Oman in the 17th century.
3- Well, the theory is that were captured in wars and became enslaved. I will have to ask more about them and I will update you.
Hope my brief answers are okay, if you have more questions please don’t hesitate to ask!
R, (wonder when I will come to know your real name – at least the first name)
Have you come across the online voting going on (one of them includes “The Civil Society Female Leader for the Year 2009”)
http://vote.s-oman.net/?campaign_id=4
Got any favourites ?
Bloggers like you should be able to encourage more people (especially omani ladies) to make their voices heard (and possibly count too)
J.
The problem is that I have a unique name..
I looked at it, and I think I will route for Habeba al-hinai.. (women’s sports and rights)..
Salam,
I have something to ask..in Oman rules, normally when the family are divorced, the kids normally to his father or mother side?
Reality,
I did email to you, but it was failed, is your email are correct?
oman.dreamer@gmail.com…
its omani dreamer…
Salam,
I was reading your posts about the race classes in Oman. Unfortunately, there is still racism in the world. Signed many roles but in people’s minds there is much to change…
It’s hard to change the minds of older people. We must bet in young. We are all equal … we are all human.
It’s true that slavery, in Oman, was abolished (officially) in 1970?
How is classified the European?
It’s great to know another country through your blog …
ma’a salama
I”m from the Phils.and i just want to ask if there’s also a
chance of getting married to my omani boyfriend legally in
their country??because i noticed that some bloggers are from western country or in india.is it the same chance also i will get ‘coz im asian?
if ever,can we get married here in UAE?because as for now we are working here in dubai.hoping for your answers to my questions.thanks!
I believe the law applies to all nationalities..
About getting married.. I honestly don’t know. I think it would be best for him to apply for the permit in Oman to see what happens
Assalam alaikum Reality!
I really like your blog and your writing style, your manners!
I wish there were more young Emirati women like that too- easily approachable, wanting to share their culture.
Dear Reality,
This is my personal query regarding Higher Education in the Omani society. Here goes..
– In your society, who generally decides which college/university one should go to – their parents or their sons or daughters themselves?
– What factors determine the final choice – reputation, word of mouth, pricing, location, the physical building etc?
– Would it be considered less prestigious or less ‘cool’ to enter into a local higher ed. institution?
– Studies show that there are more women in higher education especially at the degree level but it switches to men at the Master’s level and above. Is this because, and of course I’m generalising here, women tend to get married and choose to be a housewife after getting their degrees? Pressure from family to settle down thus surpressing their dreams of career success? What are their families’ influences on this?
– If a son/daughter decides to study an ‘unconventional’ area of study, what are the general reaction of his/her family?
– Is an average Omani able to differentiate a qualification from an internationally reputable ranked univeristy or college compared to one from a less renowned one?
– How do Omanis fund for the education for their children? Life savings, bank loans, borrowing money from members of the family, the State, scholarships etc?
– What do you think is the general opinion of your countrymen about distance learning (online learning)? Would a local company give the same respect/regard towards someone who obtained their qualification (from degree to MBA for example) totally online?
– Do the future students prefer to stay at their family’s house if they choose to further their studies locally, or would they insist on staying by themselves, to be more independent? Would they want to stay in campus or rent an apartment nearby?
– In reputable occidental higher education institutions, they tend to ‘follow’ the development of their graduated students ie. whether they are able to land a good job after graduation, and tends to invite their former students to take part at workshops or forums at their universities to share their experiences and successes. Is this also being practiced locally, whether at purely local institutions or by foreign ones installed locally? If not, would this aspect be considered welcoming and valuable, and puts an institution a level above the rest? Or is this not an important criteria when choosing where to study?
Thanks in advance Reality. I’m looking forward to your personal opinions on this!
Cheers.
The Darling Bud
Ms. Reality,
Remembered you – and your shameless ranting against everything apple- when i saw this video… thought it was hilarious and in line with your skewed sense of appreciation of technology 🙂
That may be the funniest video I have ever seen 🙂
Hello,
I am a New Zealander thinking of moving to Oman for work later this year. My wife is Vietnamese and we have a one year old son. Do you think she will have any problems with discrimination? In a lot of countries, including my own, there are a lot of people who have negative stereotypes of south east asian women.
hmm, maybe a little. But in Oman we don’t have many Vietnamese people so it’s not like there are defined stereotypes already. I don’t think people will outwardly discriminate against her.
Hey
I have just come across your blog and Im loving it, because Im a proud Omani girl.
Im a black Omani girl with a difference as my Father is O’rbi and my Mother is Nigerian.
Alot of people ask how did that happen and how did they meet, like its not humanly possible for an Omani man to marry an African women possibly even mission impossible.
Well for all u who are wondering they met in the US whilst studying a long time ago and then I came along in 1984.
By the way my mother is stunning she would attract the eye of any man regardless of nationality and that what happend with my father.
Although I get mistaken for kuwaiti all the time if not that Bahraini, and if Im wearing abayat saudi and one time Brazillian when I wasnt wearing shayla lol.
Anywayzzzzzzzzzz just want to say thank u for representing Oman there needs to be more like u, We are the unheard of the Gulf countries.
And its time we stood up and got recognised.
I was reading ur comments in regards to classes and rasiscm it hurts me as I am from 2 races both equal in beauty and intellect both Allah creation so I feel what the hell sometimes when I hear bad ignorant comments from people, but I have a big mouth probably from my african side, so I give idiots a piece of my mind and tell them a bit about them selves since they think there so great.
I love my fathers family as they are my family I am from Muscat and love it here, never experienced bad things from my people al hamduliallah.
Also about the marriage thing I wanna marry a kuwaiti dont wana lose my rights here in Oman but what do I do.
I feel like Ive written a story sorry its long.
Once again keepin repping Oman.
Your country needs you mmwwah xx
Oman 4eva
Thank you for your input, it is certainly valuable. It is the same reaction I see from people. Their brains cannot understand how it is possible that a darker person can marry a lighter one. It is hard for them to comprehend, I mean you would think that studying genetics at school would help some, but it seems like the link just passed right through them!
Ohh well, I guess lets just break the rules..
Nothing better than having a good variety of people around!
Hello,
what a great blog you have… i’m most impressed!
Since you seem to be a serious person I have a question about living as a gay person (man) in Oman.
I have met a most wonderful, considerate and in every way awesome oman man, who is also gay, here on the internet – and after a couple of weeks of intense contact we have fallen in love with each other – we are both gay and extremely serious about it.
I live in Sweden (Europe) where we have same-sex marriages, but what are our opportunities and possibilities for the two of us living together in Oman? Can we be open about our relationship? Do we have to hide in the closet (I would really hate that). I have in my country been totally open about being gay since I was 19.
How can gay men live together in Oman (Muscat)?
I would be grateful for any comment and advice 🙂
Thanks a lot in advance
// incredimale
Hi There,
I saw one of your posts about an e-book reader, way back in Oct2009. Just wanted to check, did u succeed in getting a nice e-book reader ? My problem is just like yours. I have plenty of e-books that I want to read before gooing to bed, but I hate to use my Laptop for that.
The i-pad is a good option, but pop in another 100Rials, and you can buy a decent laptop.
Would appreciate your reponse.
Bye
Arindam
hi, i realy like your blog, it s make me feel a little bit better
i just arrived in oman 1 month ago with my husband and my daughter. i from africa congo and my husband is irish, is break my heart to see the reaction of some omani people toward me, some timesthey laugh at me i don t know how to react because i travel a lot and i m confident person and is the first time i came a cross of this stituation.i realy like to be in oman because is a lovely country and i ll stay for 3 years . please can you give some advice
thanx