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Today I passed by Sablat Oman (Arabic version) and found this discussion on marriage.
It was titled: “Single because of my family, discussion”

I started reading it, and to be honest… I’m furious!

The United Nation: International Convention on the Elimination of all Forms of Racial Discrimination stated on 2006:

The Committee takes note of the discrepancy between the State party’s assertion that Omani society is ethnically homogeneous, and information that the population includes various ethnic groups, including Balochi, Swahili-speaking Omanis born in Zanzibar and other regions of East Africa, Liwatiyah and Jibalis, as well as a large number of migrant workers from the Indian subcontinent, the Philippines and other Asian countries.

Omani society is not ethnically homogeneous. People don’t act as such either! If you read my posts on racial classes in Oman you will understand what I’m talking about!
At least 70% of all Omanis are racists! its a fact! Racial discrimination is widely practiced. The problem is that when foreigners visit the country, they are met with this colorful fake facade that every one in Oman is equal. No matter what your background is… Guess what!!! THEY ARE LYING!
Yes, I’m pissed…

Let me tell you about this post that pushed my buttons:

A girl was complaining that her family is disapproving many good proposals for her marriage because there is something wrong in the guy’s lineage. The usual excuses the family gives is that: “We don’t know these people”, “They are not well known”, and “Not from our status”. It doesn’t matter whether the girl desires the guy or not! what matters is their honor does not get scratched by good men!
Then she complains that a guy from her family proposed. He is not suitable for her as a husband, but the family says yes because “At least we know him” or “He is from the family”!

STUPID… thats all I have to say!

I’ll give you some responses this girl got:

The thing is, you can’t change a guy’s lineage history, but you can change his attitude and make him become a better person.

First of all, that’s stupid. You don’t toss a poor girl on a bad guy hoping she would change him. Second of all, you people have too much faith in these men! None of my male relatives changed “for the better” after marriage. They still screw prostitutes and drive drunk..etc.

Of course lineage history is important. If people intermarry without precautions, you would end up with a generation of pictures like those of black and while.

What is more racist than this! Seriously!

And what’s with this response:

Girls, you need not to force marriage. You will get married when its written for you.

My comment: A city was flooded. A boat came by a man’s house and asked him to hop on, he said “no, I’m waiting for God, He will save me”. A while later, another boat came by, “no, I’m waiting for God, He will save me”. The third came by and the same response. The man died and when he faced God he said: “You didn’t rescue me”, God replied: “What are you talking about, I sent you three boats”….

Last, I just want to say I am very proud of those girls and “small percentage of guys” that responded against these thoughts. It certainly gives me hope that things will change for the better!

Discussion in Sablat Oman: http://www.omania2.net/avb/showthread.php?t=412551


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When I wrote about the racial classes in Oman, I didn’t realize that there was an open discussion on Sablat Oman about this issue. I started reading it, but I couldn’t help being pissed off!

The story is a scenario, I think. It is about a girl in Suhar who was abused by her stepmother. Her black friend introduced her to her brother. They started talking, fell in love, then wanted to get married. The guy proposed and the father said no. The girl sacrificed her life and went to court to get married. They got married and she lived with him. Her family, of course, disowned her.
The story goes further into saying that: The guys family dislike her because they feel she is different. The girl faces a lot of gossip from people who look down on her wherever she goes. She feels guilty because the husband and she got kicked out of her sister’s wedding. The husband faces a lot of criticism from his friends for running away with a girl…

The person who started this discussion asked for everyone’s input and thoughts on the post. Here, I will translate some of the responses for all of you to judge (These are only 10 out of 188 responses):

Response #1:

Their marriage will not last long and he will divorce her after a short time. Just as she abandoned her family, he will abandon her. Their marriage is legitimate with no dust… I, with honesty, do not agree with such kind of marriage or the kind it was done.

Response #2:

They deserve it. No one told them to get married in court. Why would she go against her own father. I’m not racist, but the person’s lineage should be taken into consideration in marriage… so don’t ignore the good heritage. Plus, the disadvantages are more than the advantages because of all the problems she faced for the marriage.

Response #3:

I don’t agree with the girl, but it’s certain that she married the guy because of her own living situation with her step mother.

Response #4:

The girl is wrong, and I would not marry my daughter off to someone who is not from her nationality…

Response #5:

Marriage in court between two people and without them being compatible…

Response #6:

God bless them..

Response #7:

With honesty would you let yourself marry someone:  this way, and pardon me, but from a skin that is different than yours….

Response #8:

First of all, Islam forbade racism.. and that is what should be the majority in the region.

Response #9:

First and last this is our culture and I don’t think it will ever change. The girl that does this deserves to be disowned till the judgment day.

Response #10:

Subhan Allah, people can’t stay put when they find stories like these and you see them stabbing with their knives for this very ugly ugly racism and being artistic on executing these knives over God’s creation, and some forgot that they are the same. Everyone will die one day but superiority, overly proud, and finding the weakest people to smash them stays.

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There are three main racial classes in Oman – from highest to lowest: (1) O’rbi “original Omani”, (2) Abd “slave”, and (3) Beesari (no origin).


Now this is the most confusing of all classes that you would ever have to hear about. A Beesari is a person with no origin. Now, why are these lower than the Abeed? Well, it’s because you can’t trace their blood line.. at all. No origin, no ancestors what so ever! The funny thing is that people from the first and second class would not marry someone who is Beesari because unknown blood line might bring “disorders” or “genetic” diseases to who is marrying them. BUT, marrying your cousin is totally fine! No diseases there! Cause that makes total sense!

People have gone so far as to say that Beesari’s ancestors are….. Well, lets rule out the others first!
So, white people in general are pigs.. Jews are monkeys.. who do we have left?? Donkeys!
Why would that be shocking? I mean, it makes sense… totally!

So because O’rbis and Abeed (I think Abeed are just happy at this point to feel superior over someone) don’t know where Beesari’s came from, they just thought about giving them a donkey ancestor. Associating Beesari’s with animal ancestors makes them seem less human, and therefore, it is okay to treat them with no respect. I think we need to have some DNA testing here. I’m sure people would find out that Beesari’s came from…well,  just around the corner!

Physical Characteristics: They are mostly  light skin, but they either have the coarse hair or the flat nose. Now, unlike the Abeed who are generally black, Beesari’s are harder to identify. It takes research to identify this group, and sometimes you can tell by their last name and town. However, many Beesari’s have managed to hide it and marry someone from the Orbi’s class. And once you do that.. Boy, you climbed really high! you are just that good! Beesari’s would show case it and brag about it till the bride’s family finds out and force you to divorce her! Cause God Forbid people found out! How can this girl and her family live with this embarrassment and shame!

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There are three main racial classes in Oman – from highest to lowest: (1) O’rbi “original Omani”, (2) Abd “slave”, and (3) Beesari (no origin).

(2) Abd:

The word Abd means slave. It is used towards ex-slaves in Oman. Is it used in the derogetory way? Well, yes!
These people are different from the Sawahili because those are originally from Zanzibar and they can trace their lineage pretty well. However, people with Sawahili origin do not belong to any of these classes because similar to the Baluchi’s.. They are not really Omani!

Slavery has only been formally abolished in 1970 in Oman. Many Omani’s in their 50’s would remember walking around the slavery markets, and a lot of these second class Abeed -slaves- are actually either “literally” ex-slaves or first and second generation of ex-slaves. The reason they are called Abeed is because they are identified as ex-slaves and not original Omanis. Now, the government has been trying – or may I say… trying, just not so hard! – to punish those mostly O’rbis for calling someone Abd in public, which is of course retarded! I mean, My God! That is just who they ARE! I don’t know if the government understands that the problem is deeper than just Calling someone Abd! The fine “so i’ve heard” is about 500 rial (1200 USD), and now O’rbis giggle in their households thinking this is a stupid law! Especially that the Abeed sometimes provoke O’rbis to call them as such for money! I mean really, they try so hard – poor things suffer so much – to stop their urges, but it’s not THEIR fault if they are provoked!

Physical Identification: Since slaves in Oman were brought in from Africa, usually these people are black, with the coarse hair, and flat noses.  These are enough characteristics for a Orbi to feel superior and act as such. Now, maybe not allare black, but if an Orbi has a Abd ancestor “even if it was a cousin to an ancestor”, then their blood is tainted  Abeed and they do not belong to either class. It is hard for women and men to get married in this situation because they don’t want to go below their class and the O’rbis think their blood is tainted… Which is another reason for O’rbis to justify why they wont marry from the Abd class.. they don’t want their children to suffer! Cause God Forbid.. they can’t change their culture! That’s just how they were raised!

Now, originally in Islam.. God’s message is.. All People are Equal
Well, yeah.. but not really! Allah didn’t mean it in that way. He meant to say that all people are equal to Him, and that He will judge people equally based on how faithful they are to Him. But wait! doesn’t that mean we are all equal? Well, To Him we are, but in the cultural sense.. we are not! Some are just better than others…

So Confused!

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I wanted to start my blog with a post on one of the most sensitive issues (at least to me) in Oman: Racial classes

There are three main racial classes in Oman – from highest to lowest: (1) O’rbi “original Omani”, (2) Abd “slave”, and (3) Beesari (no origin).
Now before I start explaining the differences between them, I want you all to know that these racial classes have nothing to do with skin color, but with your origin or line of blood. Also, I want to make clear that not all people believe in this system, but it is out there.. and wide spread!

This category includes the all well known and may I stress “proud” original Omanis. They are the “above” all in their “well known” line of blood. There are different types of people with this group: First, are those with the famous last names and huge families (or tribes, which ever). And i’m not talking about the Bluchi’s or Zidgali’s (they are not really Omanis!), but i’m talking about those who “proudly” can trace their ancestory lineage to hundreds or even thousands of years back being from Oman. Usually these are called the Sadah; meaning leaders. Second, you have the people with the middle size “tribes” who are still well known, just not as the first category. These are the wannabees or the social climbers. Each mother hopes her daughter would marry from the first type so that they can be even more “proud”. I will call these Awlad Shewkh; meaning sons of Shaiks, cause I think thats how they like to refer to themselves. Third, are those with the “not so well known” last names or “not known at all”. These people belong to the smaller “tribes” or the poor ones. They are either “poor” and “proud” or just poor. For lack of a better word, I’ll call these Masakeen, cause they are.. poor.

All these types of  O’rbi’s share a common thought: we are “proud” and “better” than all of you “fake Omanis”. Here, i’m only identifying them. It is not uncommon in Oman for someone to ask another classmate/ coworker/ friend: What is your last name?
Because in reality, they are asking: What is your status? Sometimes it is just to have a sense of where a person is from because some family names are concentrated in certain regions in Oman. But, in other cases, it is to assess how much “respect” you should give to that person. If the person is from the Sadah, then you darn well should show respect!

Nevertheless, these are the people who like to think they represent Oman in its best.. “not so sure!”
So, they are hospitable to strangers and welcome them in their homes, they give them food, never say no for someone to stay over night with them.. very humble especially towards the Sadah of course or the those who are in the higher category. They are the most likely to be offended by someone somewhere for something.. and of course, they are the most religious “not really! just the most that stick to cultural beliefs and never change!” Thats another thing about these people: the HATE to change, unless of course they climb that social ladder, then they would be happy to get dozens of housemaids.. but God Forbid they change their “cultural beliefs!”

One reason why we still have this stupid “racial classes” in Oman is because these idiots think it will be chaotic to “God Forbid” .. change! and think that other people in Oman who served the country and earned their Omani national are actually “just like them”! OMG! Did I just say it.. We are .. what?!!! Equal! so confused! 

Sorry Barak Obama, I guess your message for change only reaches the US and the rest of the world..

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